Playing favorites in school

What was your favorite subject in school?

I haven’t thought much about school in a long time. At least, not in the positive sense. Bad memories and experiences tend to stick with people and overshadow the good ones. Still, I look back and think I have an answer, however it varies by age/grade.

The younger I was, thinking back to elementary school my favorite subject was probably art or gym. Very little structure or expectation applied to those. Music classes followed at least some kind of structure, and I distinctly recall a moment when a friend and I were excited to play a particular instrument and the teacher humored us. We played something we had been practicing as part of the class, and I know we did alright but I could tell our teacher was giving us the look of “okay, great, let’s move on.” So yes, art and/or gym back then was my favorite.

Moving up to middle school I leaned more into the tech and science classes. Anything to do with the computers or experimenting with things like the little robotics stuff or the CNC machines. Those were fun times.

High school I was all over the place. Freshman and Sophomore years were more science. We blew stuff up and did the egg-a-pult capsules, things like that. Oh, and geometry. I wasn’t fond of math classes, but geometry was a different case. I was one of the few students who did well with 3-dimensional geometry and I treated those problems like fun little puzzles. Junior year I loved physics. It was also the year I moved from the Colorado Suburbs to farm country on the Great Plains of South Dakota. Senior year in ag country was interesting. Favorite subject was probably welding! Something I don’t think was even remotely offered in Colorado, but I wouldn’t know for certain since I didn’t get into Shop class.

So there you have it!

Screen time is unavoidable

How do you manage screen time for yourself?

These days, technology is prevalent in our everyday lives to such a degree that we (those of us who were raised in the 80’s and 90’s) often forget what life was like without it, and most kids growing up these days will never know different. Screen time, whether that is from the cell phone I’m typing this on or the various computers and laptops I may or may not use throughout the daily work routine, is impossible to avoid.

So how DO I manage my screen time if it’s basically in front of my face 24/7? A couple different ways.

At work, I can get up and go for a walk. My office has space where people can walk laps (not originally designed for that purpose but it was bound to happen) so all I have to do is put on a short podcast or just listen to music, and walk for 15 minutes or so. To help me stay consistent with that, though, I also have calendar reminders in my Outlook two walk twice each day.

Outside of work is a different story altogether. My primary hobby is video games, so how the heck do I balance THAT? Well, I also like to cook, so occasionally I just set my phone down to make dinner and just whip something up on the fly without looking at my phone. See what I come up with and make enough for leftovers.

I also love playing Magic: The Gathering, and I have several Commander decks I’ve built, and my roommate and I will work out a time for a couple of our friends to come over and we’ll sling spells for a couple hours. The same group of us also play tabletop board games, and we had a regular cadence going for a while to play Gloomhaven, but we’ve been done with that for a while so now we’re just working out time to dig into Frosthaven.

I could come up with other ways to reduce my screen time, but those are the ones that come to mind as the most consistent. Walking, cooking, and non-digital tabletop games.

Prioritizing Time

Do you need time?

Simple question? Simple answer.

Yes

I don’t think anyone would say no to this question. We all need time. Some more than others.

We need more time in the day to get things done. That applies to both Work and Life. If I had more time at work, projects wouldn’t feel like they’re under a major crunch. If I had more time outside of work for Life kinds of things then I could probably feel less drained and do more. You know, get a little more sleep or have time to take naps when I need them to help recharge.

I need time for family, too. I try to spend plenty of time visiting on weekends, but my nieces and nephews seem to be growing up so quickly that I’m missing out on their sporting events. I managed to get out this summer and watch my one nephew in his soccer games.

The problem is that time is limited, so we have to prioritize how we spend it. Juggling priorities is a pain in the ass.

Long-term planning is not my forte

What will your life be like in three years?

I’m going to be honest, I suck at planning my future. I struggle to plan where I’ll be one year from now, let alone three or even five. The best I ever did was “I’m going to work for my current employer for at least seven years.” And now I’m almost at eight. So, go me for that plan!

But if I had to jot down some things I would like to have happen I can do that. I just won’t be in the “will be” camp. Can’t be too certain and I don’t like to plan for disappointment on major life events.

Anyways, where I would like to be or things I would like to have happen in the next three years? Let’s get a list going.

  • Own a home
  • Publish a novel
  • Have my student loans paid off/forgiven (this is part of that “work for seven years” deal. Working for a nonprofit. Three years to go for the ten year requirement or whatever)
  • Maybe meet someone and start a romantic relationship
  • Visit friends in other States and Countries
  • Find and purchase that motorcycle I really wanted (2015 Yamaha Bolt C-Spec, green)
  • Maybe publish a second novel, while I’m at it

Do I have plans to accomplish any of these things? Not particularly. I start things and get sidetracked or something comes up that alters my course. So far the closest things I could see happening are owning a home and publishing a novel. (Doing NaNoWriMo this year for a change. One week in and I’m at 13,640 words!)

So there you go, stuff to aim for in the next three years.

The Hottest New Holiday?

Invent a holiday! Explain how and why everyone should celebrate.

I wasn’t even sure where to start at first. Then I had an idea. My manager loves to send an email every Friday with that day’s Holidays. So I decided to check. Just a few words to see what wouldn’t come up so I could build something up.

So, after a few minutes of this, I landed on “Cheat on your diet day” because I know that there are some people out there who struggle to accept that it’s okay to have that treat once in a while. And all you would have to do to celebrate is skip the salad, the boring, unseasoned chicken and rice, and pick up a cheeseburger or a brownie or something. There’s nothing wrong with having a break from routine to enjoy life a little bit. Celebrating it is not mandatory, and for people who struggle with falling off the wagon then it is 100% okay if you skip it.

For those of you that don’t like the above holiday I did come up with an alternative.

“Recognize/Celebrate a Streak Day” where you recognize something you’re having a consistent streak of progress. For example, Snapchat (which I don’t frequently use) has streaks of daily snaps with your friends. Or in my case, I could celebrate my streak on Duolingo. Today is 215 days in a row! Get the idea now? Celebrate your consistency and wins. Easy.

Consuming the World (Wide Web)

What are your favorite websites?

In the age of Streaming, Social Media, and Influencers there is so much content being made and uploaded to the internet. It can be so time consuming just LOOKING for things to enjoy that some days you end up not finding anything. Reddit filled a void where searchability met functionality that made it an amazing place to live online.

Up until the controversial API changes and subsequent fallout I would spend a minimum of an hour each day just browsing Reddit. Afterwards? Not so much. I removed the apps from my phone, I stopped actively visiting it at home, and whenever I would search for something I would try to avoid clicking links to reddit threads.

I never got into TikTok, which amuses me because some of my friends use it and will share links from there. Knowing what it is and relatively how it works I made the conscious decision to avoid it. I don’t click their links.

Instead I started to use Instagram more frequently, and flipping over to Facebook more often than I did in the past.

And of course, given my past with Twitch and the friends I’ve made through streaming, Twitch is another site I spend a lot of time. Even if I’m just lurking in chat.

Back to Instagram for a moment. I’ve also been trying to get back into painting miniatures for tabletop games, so I’ve occasionally posted pictures of my work over there. If you’re curious about that you can check it out here, and maybe I’ll start sharing those pictures here on the blog too!

Time Travel Do-over…sorta

Is there an age or year of your life you would re-live?

Oddly enough, I’ve put a lot of thought into similar questions. And the ultimate answer is mostly “No”.

What are the constraints of such a thing as “Re-live an age or year of your life”? Are you back in your body from that time? With your current memories intact? Or do you truly get to re-live it, no memories from the present, so you can experience the exact same things all over again in the way they happened?

If it is the latter, is the “re-living” limited to just that window of time and then you go back? Do you retain the memories and feelings from this “second round”, thus amplifying/restoring the memories and emotions from the first time? This setup might be okay for when we’re getting older and forgetting things. This gets a “maybe” from me.

If it was the former, and you basically get your mind sent back in time to inhabit the body of your younger self, then this would be a solid “No”. The reason being you wouldn’t be the same person. Even more so the further back you go to “re-live” a part of your life. In every case, you would have extra knowledge to work with over others around you. But in some cases, especially for those of you who think “Yea, I’d go back to high school and do that over!”, you are making that choice because you want to do things differently, armed with new knowledge and experience that only comes with time. You really wouldn’t be the same person. And the further back in time you go to reach that era of your life, the weirder it gets. You’re an adult inhabiting the mind and body of your younger self, but you’re still an adult. There would be risks, based on your objective. And I’m not talking about just the obvious “bet it all on Google/Amazon and let it ride until it’s worth something” but also alienation.

So sure, let’s revisit high school. Your teachers are going to wise up to your sudden increase of maturity, your ability to work, your sudden lack of interest in things your peers are doing. Your high school love interests would be children, and your level of maturity would (I hope) lead you down a path of showing more interest and attraction to the adults because you realize that romance at that age was incredibly limited and boring. Everything would add up. You’d be putting yourself into a situation where you aren’t “re-living” it so much as you are “re-building” it. And if you weren’t careful, you would be re-building a lot and losing friends along the way.

You can take the same basic logic from the high school example and apply it to just about any age or year you go back to re-live. The further back in time it is for you, the weirder things can get. So just don’t do it.

This thought experiment led me to the conclusion that instead we should make changes to our “here and now” for a better future. That’s why my answer to the initial question is simply “No”.

Past Forward

What historical event fascinates you the most?

No, the post title isn’t a typo. I just thought it would be an interesting representation of my mental reaction to reading today’s question.

There are so many historical events, great and small, that I could probably talk about. But I won’t, because as much as I might find one event or another “fascinating”, I’m always drawn toward thinking about the future.

I’ve heard the phrasing “the past informs the future” before and to be clear I completely agree with it, even when I talk about not finding past historical events as fascinating as the future potential of our world. But I’m not a history buff. If there is something important going on in the here and now, I’ll dig up the history of it so I can make sure I know how things got to this point. Then I lose that focus and daydream about what COULD be coming next.

All that being said, to properly answer the question I would say I find World War II to be the most fascinating (followed distantly by the Moon landing,) because so much of what happened back then is still relevant to today’s society, and there are all those strange experiments and government programs that have surfaced over the years.

Knowledge for all

What’s something you believe everyone should know.

It seems like at least once a week I find something that I feel like everyone would benefit from if they knew it. I only wish I kept notes of those things.

Anyways, here’s a brief list:

  • How to cook
  • How to drive manual transmission vehicles
  • How to navigate (both inside and outside cities)
  • How to read a map
  • How to sew

The list could go on and on. These things also overlap with “survival skills” so maybe I could just simplify it down to “Everyone should know survival skills.”

If I think of more maybe I’ll do future blog entries about them.

Daydreams of being young again

Before I jump into today’s prompt I want to set the stage a bit. Do you have children in your life? Your own? A siblings kids? Students? Take a moment and reflect on how they might see the world.

Now…

What does it mean to be a kid at heart?

Consider the perspectives of children. The way they see the world around them, how it makes them feel to learn and experience new things on their own or with friends. As we get older those feelings get smaller, maybe not totally forgotten, but they exist in an ever growing sea of emotions and memories, and they become more difficult to tap into again. That sense of wonder and amazement? Sure, we can still get that through books and movies, but it isn’t totally the same. That carefree nature and desire to have fun? Oftentimes replaced by understanding and expectations of the world. Replaced by the obligations of growing up and becoming an adult (whatever that means anymore.)

To get back to that way of living is nearly impossible for most people, but it can be done.

For myself, it all boils down to letting go of the fear and anxiety caused by the idea that I could be judged or tarnish my image for doing something I find fun that others might find embarrassing. Are you like me and you’re comfortable singing along in the car but you would never be caught doing it in public? It’s kind of like that.

Take a moment and think that over. What would it mean to you to do something fun that others might find embarrassing? Maybe it’s like popping in your earbuds, jamming to music and dancing a little bit as you exit the elevator at work?

Let go of the fear of embarrassment. Dance, skip, sing, talk passionately about the things you like, just do SOMETHING that might lead back down that path of feeling carefree and young at heart. And then when you get there chase that sense of excitement, of wonder and amazement. Have fun without being judged.

Of course, do it responsibly. Don’t go dancing on top of a cop car, or something equally wild.