Are you holding a grudge? About?

Last I checked, I wasn’t holding any grudges.

Some time in the last five years or so I reached a point where I came to terms with the idea of “letting someone live in your head rent free” and how it’s just not worth the energy to dwell on those kinds of things.

People may have wronged me in the past, but I’m not going to go out of my way to get back at them, and I’m certainly not going to let them do anything similar to me again. However, I’ve set myself up so that they don’t have those opportunities by simply keeping them at a distance or cutting them out (if it was serious enough) and moving on.

In my mind, whether in whole or in part, “Forgive and Forget” doesn’t always apply, and for those times where you know you won’t forget what happened, forgiveness can be optional. This is part of where I’ve come to terms with the previous idea. I don’t HAVE to forgive, but I also don’t need to expend extra energy (mentally and physically) to maintain a grudge if I know not to repeat the same mistake or let someone wrong me again because I didn’t “forget” what happened.

I have more important things to spend my energy and mental bandwidth on than a grudge.